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mamamantis:

also i was thinking about this the other day

the vast majority of the time, i don’t shave my legs or pits, and i like it and it makes me feel like a cool badass

but like

i’m still not at a point where i feel comfy going out in public unshaved and if i’m gonna be out and about and i wanna wear shorts or a sleeveless shirt, yeah, i shave it all off

and a lot of women have approached me about this concern - that they like to stay unshaved but they’re still too self-conscious or nervous to go out unshaved

and i feel like there’s this underlying assumption that this insecurity makes you, like???? less empowered or less of a badass or even less of a feminist

and that is such bullshit

it’s not your fault that you don’t feel comfortable looking a certain way in public, esp when that discomfort stems from patriarchy, and it doesn’t mean that yr a bad feminist or that you aren’t empowered or that you aren’t cool

girls ask me all the time “how can i feel comfortable going out without my legs shaved? i’m still scared to” and it’s like

if you want to it’s v important to figure out how to be comfortable

but it’s also just not a requirement in general??? you don’t have to be okay w running around unshaved in public, you don’t have to be okay w ANYTHING that has to do w doing brave things w yr body, you don’t owe that to anyone

and this idea that the more confident you are, the more empowered you are is bullshit and i think it can be really toxic

you can be shy and insecure and not really that happy about how you look and still be a fucking badass and anyone who tries to insinuate otherwise is a jerk

chanted:

I hate it when you are having a bad day and everyone takes it personally, like no i hate myself, not you. get the fuck over yourself.